There is the story of a woman who had been a true lover. She exhibited all the ingredients of true love. Indeed, she had a firm grip of the rules of the game in her marriage life; she was diplomatic and considerate toward her husband. This was a story narrated by the Messenger of God, Muhammad (peace be upon him), to his companions The Prophet said: “I inquired from a certain woman whose husband was a woodcutter about how she treated her husband and she explained as follows:”

She revealed her husband was a woodcutter – That he used to cut woods and gathers them in the mountains. And that he always descended from the mountain in order to sell them. She said he then used his earning to buy what they needed in their home. The woman then continued that she used to share with him that sort of hardship her husband had to go through for the sake of their livelihood. She also did feel (in her) the severity of the thirst he had to endure in the mountain – that almost always scorched her throat too. Due to this, she always prepared for him a good drinking water – so that anytime he came back, he would find it readily available. Before he comes home, she would tidy up the home (keeping every thing in their rightful place), then set the table.

She continued: “After all these, I then put on my most beautiful dress – waiting for his return and, as soon as he enters, I would welcome him in such a manner as a bride would do for a bridegroom with whom she was deeply in love. I would do this in a total submission of myself.” The woman then intimated that whenever her husband needed rest, she would aid him unto it; then when he needed her, she would fall into his arms (allowing him to play with her) in such a manner as a father would play with his little girl.

This poor and hard-working woodcutter of a man had to endure scorching sun of Arabia up in the mountains, just to be able to fend for his family. His wife did her part in providing him with a relaxed and convenient ambience. The big question now is, how many of today’s men are ready go to that extent to earn their livelihood in order to support their loved ones? How about the ladies too? Do they also as well, try to reciprocate the hard work done by their husbands in order to keep their families intact?

Flirtations between a man and his wife are an indication of the continuation of love. After all, love is like a flower, that needs to be watered constantly. The “water” for this flower should be flirting with each other. The Prophet of Islam, Muhammad (peace be upon him), described a man who shies away from having fun with his wife as cruel.