Have you always wanted to understand the mindset of a cheating partner? Have you ever been puzzled by the behavior of cheaters? Well… believe it or not but all cheaters have some key common mindsets that allow them to cheat. They have some key attitudes that allow them to sanction their unfaithful ways. So what are the key mindsets of a cheating spouse?
1. Incorrect vision of the relationship. This partner has either a hazy perspective on what they want their relationship to look like in the long term or their vision for the relationship is that they are in it only for a short time. If your partner’s vision is erroneous then they have created room to allow them self to be untrue to you.
2. No relationship goal. A partner with this mindset does not have a long term goal for the relationship. This happens mainly because many of us have a goal of getting into a relationship but once we are in the relationship we have no goal for the relationship. We simply keep moving without knowing where we are going as a couple. A partner with no relationship goal will easily cheat when the opportunity presents itself.
3. Incorrect relationship assessment gauge. Cheating partners compare their relationship with other relationships instead of their own vision of what they want for their relationship. And as you all know when you compare yourself with others you become either conceited or discontent. Conceit gives a false sense of invincibility that makes a person more likely to cheat as they do not take the necessary safeguards against cheating. Discontent on the other hand makes a person seek fulfillment elsewhere in search of the elusive ‘great’ relationship that other people have.
4. No growth. This is a partner who is not committed to keep growing in the relationship and they have a mindset of wanting things to remain as they were at the start and if things change then they are prone to being untrue as they search for what ‘used to be’.
5. Emotions held by the past. A partner with this mindset is controlled by the past. Whatever happened in the past still has a hold on this partner. This means that if this person was cheated on they believe that all other partners will cheat on them and they either keep talking about it or acting like it is happening until it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. To avoid this pitfall make sure that your partner has made peace with their past.
6. Immediate gratification. A partner with this mindset is usually not ready to make sacrifices for the relationship. They focus on getting gratification now and so will not resist attraction to other people as they place a higher premium on how they feel, now and here, regardless of its possible repercussions.
7. Avoid responsibility. A partner with this mindset does not take responsibility for them self. It is always either somebody else’s fault or they couldn’t help them self. This mindset prepares your partner to cheat since they have convinced them self that they are not responsible.
A partner with only one of these mindset’s may, with some help, learn to change their attitude but a partner with most of these will need a serious mind transformation for them to close the door to infidelity.