No marriage is immune to its share of upheavals. But some survive and others don’t. In an abusive relationship, it may be better for spouses to divorce and give their children a peaceful environment. In other cases, partners can iron out differences and restart their marriage.
The case to salvage marriage if possible is strong. A broken marriage is like a report card with a failure mentioned in there. If reasons are trivial, then chances are that there would be regrets later on in life, when the partners mature or realize where they went wrong.
Let us peek into some of the effective ways to reconcile your marriage-
1/ Communicate with each other.
Communication is the key to resolving such issues, which are not as large as they are made out to be. But the partner who is at the receiving end may get so worked up that only wrong words may come up.
The solution obviously needs to start with communication, this time the right way of going about it. If the matter is related to finance, then a frank discussion exclusively related to funds should be held, and a subject should be resolved to the mutual satisfaction.
2/ Keep your egos aside.
Usually, the partner who errs, understands and knows whose fault it is. Therefore, ego needs to be set aside. There is no shame in admitting that one misunderstood or misinterpreted the situation. The other partner should be gracious enough to forgive at the slightest hint of regret instead of using that error in judgment to gain an edge in the relationship. Past should never be revived, and it should be given a natural burial.
3/ Never neglect your partner.
Neglect in presence of parents, siblings, or extended family members can hurt, as would any form of humiliation. At times, there can be issues in which the partner may be right and need support. Such support may be offered verbally or with a hug, in private or in the presence of others.
Admitting that the partner was right in the situation would most certainly help, if that is the case. An honest relationship is ideal under all circumstances. Nagging is absolutely uncalled for. If any reminders have to be given, the method can be devised such that verbal reminders are not necessary.
Some couples use their refrigerators to put sticky note reminders. Funnily, people do not mind written reminders, but verbal reminders are seen as ordering about, which is resented.
Above all, it is necessary to remember that marriage is a team work. It is the team that is pitted against other teams and, therefore, team members should be playing in tandem. If one of the partners is overworked, while the other takes it easy and sits before the television set, there is bound to be resentment, and some hard words, which are unnecessary if a caring attitude can be adopted.