Break ups are rarely a good thing. This is particularly true if you’re a man desperately in love with a woman who doesn’t want to be with you any longer. When she says it’s over you probably can feel your heart breaking and your future crumbling. The normal route to take after a split is to mourn the loss for a few months and then move on. You’ll likely compare every woman you date in the future to the one that got away. Instead of living with the regret of not trying again, why not do everything you can to get her back?

There’s a common misconception that once a relationship is over, it’s over forever. Many couples reunite after some time apart, and the reason is that one partner knew what to do to make that happen. It might seem that the way to go about getting her back once she says it’s over is to beg for a second chance until she gives in and grants it. This approach will almost always result in convincing her that she did the right thing ending it. Women don’t want to be with men who beg and plead, they want to be with strong, emotionally stable men.

Respecting her decision to separate when she says it’s over should always be your first step. You should agree with her that you need time apart. Don’t go overboard and tell her that you think it’s a great idea. Just tell her that some distance would be good for you both and you’ll use the time to think. That one statement alone will do wonders when it comes to getting her back. Whenever a man says he needs to think, the woman in his life starts to imagine what it’s about. If you seem in control and fine with the break up, it’s going to eat at your ex.

Don’t make the mistake of trying to make her jealous to get her back. This is a very bad idea for several reasons. Once your ex girlfriend sees you with another woman she’ll never be able to get that image out of her mind. If you want to get her back, focus on yourself instead of other women. Do everything you can to improve your own life so your ex will be impressed. You want to show her what she’s missing.