My mother often complained of having a lonely marriage. Dad would not have said that he was lonely in marriage. He had his hobbies and interests. She did, too. The problem was that they had no shared interests. That may be your problem, too.
There is no reason to settle for a lonely marriage. There must be interests that you share. Otherwise, you would never have gotten married. It is true that some couples rush to the altar before they really get to know each other. If that is the case in your situation, then schedule some time to get to know each other and make it a priority.
If you are lonely in marriage, you must be able to get your partner involved. If this is impossible, if he or she is resistant, there could be other problems. But, assuming that both parties are still in love and willing to work together, instead of against each other, there are ways to learn what you have in common and how you can spend more time together.
For many couples, the issue is finding time. Both partners have individual commitments. You may have kids who require a lot of attention. But, there is always some way to work in more time to spend together if you try. You might also try becoming involved in something that your spouse enjoys doing.
If both of you are bored and lonely in marriage, consider taking a couples class or joining a club. Ask your spouse out on a date. When both of you enjoy the time spent together, schedule a weekly date night and try not to let anything interfere with it.
But, one of the quickest ways to cure a lonely marriage is to turn off the TV. If both of you are in the house and you’re still lonely in marriage, the TV may be the problem. I have been in homes where the TV is on non-stop. When you turn it off, you find other things to do and you actually talk to each other.
An easy and inexpensive way to spend more time together is to go for a walk. It’s good for your health and your relationship. As you’re walking, talk about how you feel.
Talking about your feelings is a good way to start to bridge the divide in your relationship. There are lots of resources available to help you learn about establishing a better line of communication and heal a lonely marriage. It takes work, but it is well worth the effort.