Women often wonder why did he leave? What did I do? Most women and guys too want a mutually satisfying relationship. Harmony, peace and getting along with one another is what a lot of people strive for. If your goals for your relationship are not the same, you will experience problems. If your desire for a permanent relationship is different from your guys, pay close attention. You may run him off without intending to. Men do leave women who try to press them for commitment before they are ready.
Are You Pressuring for Commitment?
Perhaps you have been with your guy for what you consider “long enough” and you are ready to settle down and make this relationship permanent. You give off numerous hints and try to talk to him about it. Maybe you are hearing the loud tick, tick tick of your biological clock reminding you it is time to settle down and get married. If you are experiencing this and you find your guy becoming more aloof instead of more committed, just maybe the commitment is NOT what he wants. Perhaps he has no intention of marrying you at all.
If this is the case, what should you do?
If you feel your man is not ready for a commitment and you are, the first thing to do is back off and check out what is really going on. If could be that you are going forward with your own agenda and he is not ready for it. It could also mean you are with a guy who is a serial dater but never ready to move forward. You should honestly evaluate and take stock on what is going on in your relationship before you decide to talk to him. Each relationship is different. While you are taking a step back and deciding who (if anyone) has a commitment issue, be prepared to face the facts even if you don’t want to. If one of you is ready to make a commitment and the other party is not; you have to decide what your options and your actions are going to be. Pressuring your partner for a commitment is not the best thing to do. Even if he is not ever going to make a commitment to you, it is best to end it without drama. You will end up hurt and full of resentment.
It is not easy to look at our behavior sometimes, but it is certainly necessary. We all want healthy happy relationships. If you find yourself covering the same ground in your love life, taking a hard look at this area can help you move towards better dating and relationship success.