Everyday around the world, millions of marriages end in fail, which is gravely unfortunate! In comparison, just as many marriages end in divorce as babies are born.
Is it possible that some percentage of these marriages could have been saved? Sadly, the world will never know. Even if a marriage does survive it is difficult to track a success rate due to the overshadowing marriage failure.
Can the destiny of your troubled marriage be redirected? I would love to be able to answer that question, but honestly I can’t. I can tell you that if your marriage is in trouble you can’t do nothing and expect something to come out of it Bu… if you take action, there is a much better chance that your marriage will be saved. Even if you start with a small action such as praying about the situation (if you believe in prayer) you will at least have more piece of mind as opposed to not doing anything at all.
The truth is that saving a troubled marriage is a very challenging task. However, it is very doable also. Anything that is worth fighting for will take effort. With that being said, I will now present you with 4 steps that can reverse the direction of your troubled marriage. The steps are not easy, but neither is being married period. More importantly they provide direction, which is all you need to get your marriage back on track.
The 4 steps are:
1) No more finger-pointing. Stop pointing the finger at your spouse and stop blaming yourself. It’s obvious that someone has to be at fault, but blaming doesn’t help. A sure-fire way to paralyze progress if for couples to blame one another. The more blame, the more stubborn both people become, and the marriage comes to a stand-still. This is why I chose to make this step 1. Momentum is key here.
The blame game is nothing new. It first occurred in the Bible when Adam blame Eve for giving him the forbidden fruit, then Eve turned around and blamed the serpent for tricking her. In the long run its a lot better to just bite the bullet and take responsibility for your own actions. Ironically, it makes you feel a lot better.
2) Take responsibility. Regardless of whether you are the husband or wife you may have to be the “bigger man” in this situation. What you need to understand is that people are always looking for someone to set the example. That way, they can follow the example that has been set. Once you make a change, your spouse will most likely follow suit. This will challenge your pride. But remember, pride can cause a great fall if not managed properly. Although similar, taking responsibility and not pointing the finger are different.
Without a doubt. you must purpose in your heart that even if you aren’t at fault you are still going to do some things in a different manner. here is always room for improvement in every case. Change starts with you.
The thing that wows me is that we all know what we should be doing, but it takes some sort of tragic or negative turn of events to occur before we change our course of action.
A troubled marriage is just like a house being on fire, it doesn’t mater who started the fire, it only matters that everyone makes it out of the house safely. As long as the both of you are alive you can always work on building a new house together.
3) Take advantage of the resources that marriage experts have to offer. If others have been helped, you can be, too. What you need to realize is that your situation may seem hopeless because you have never been in it before. It’s unfamiliar territory. Even if this is your second or third marriage each case is unique in its own way. However, experts see these scenarios all of the time. Their years of experience in handling even the toughest marital hardships.
The truth is that your situation is no different from every other situation. Not too much new comes through the doors of marriage therapists. Not to be mistaken; everyone has their own story, but the dynamics are the same.
4) Take action. One detrimental mistake that is made is the people try to have it all figured out before taking action. It’s impossible to have it all figured and all of your ducks in a row before you attempt to fix a marriage. You first start by acting on what you know, then working your way through the rest. Remember, you don’t have to be perfect at something to take action on it, but you do have to take action on it if you ever want to be perfect at it.
Even if you understand where the issue is coming from It is not enough. You must then act! Resolution of the situation takes action.
Will the destiny of your marriage be redirected? If you follow my suggestions, you have infinitely more opportunity for saving your marriage than if you do nothing. In a marriage you must make sure that you are doing your part to the fullest. Your enthusiasm can have great bearing on the outcome of your marriage.